Tuesday, April 9, 2013
What I’ve Learned From Traveling Around the World for 10 Years
1. We all wants the same thing Vastly different as the world’s cultures are, if you speak to homeless thais, Dutch engineers and Indians computer programmers, in their own languages, you start to see that we are all incredibly alike where it matters. Everyone just wants validation, love, security, enjoyment and hopes for a better future. The way they verbalise this and work towards it is where things branch off, but we all have the same basic desires. You can relate to everyone in the world if you look past the superficial things that separate you. 2. Happiness to the future ? I fundamentally believe that long-term pure happiness from one particular situation or achievement is a pipe-dream, but we can learn to be content with what we have, live in the now, all while enjoying the progress and changes we are making. 3. Enjoy the show. I personally don’t believe in magic or fairies or astrology or sky wizards or large-scale invisible inexplicable forces at work on petty daily activities of humans. I’m sceptical about such things, and believe they are all impossible/ridiculous, and knowledge of this has enriched my life. As a practical person, I see the world as a very logical place with physical and social rules and understanding this has helped me live well in it. The universe owes you nothing, you owe it to yourself to be the master of where your life ends up. 4. Your limitations are not set by who you know. Destiny is used as a cop-out and standard excuse by most people for why they don’t do something with their lives. The thing is, it doesn’t exist. 5. BE TOLERANT It’s important to acknowledge that maybe you are actually the wrong one. The world is much more fun with people of varying interests and beliefs. Despite my scepticism, in my travels I have hung out with astrologists, palm readers, very religious folk, conservatives, and people who hate technology. And my life and experiences are enriched so much because of it. 6. Living a good life is the best way possible to convince people Just live by example and soon you’ll have people on your side when they see your results and how passionate you are. No need to “convince” them. Just show them that you are there, tell them how you got there, and they will start to realise that maybe you aren’t that crazy after all. 7. Patience to everyone Almost everyone has problems and puts on a brave face – don’t presume they have it easy. You see of each person what they let you see. You have no idea what they are going through or what they had to put up with to be in a situation that you can consider “easy”. 8. “I don’t know” There is a stigma in some cultures to admit ignorance about a particular topic. Don’t dance around the issue – just say I don’t know. Honesty is way smarter. 9. More money will NEVER solve your problems As long as you are not living in the street or going hungry, then you do not “need” more money. When you spend enough time with people who are actually living on next to nothing, but having a full life, then you will truly understand this. Everything that is wonderful about life doesn’t cost a penny, and the rest is way cheaper than you think it is. 10. Possessions own you And it almost never actually enriches your life in any way. The less you own the better. 11. Do something with other people The world that is worth experiencing is not in books or on TV or computer screens. It’s with other human beings. Stop being shy and get out and meet them! 12. Speaking only English But you will never truly experience the local culture if you limit yourself to being able to interact on a deep level just the well educated part of it. English-speaking travellers miss out on so much – not speaking English has defined most of my travels and the amazing experiences I have had would have been impossible if I didn’t try to learn the local languages. 13. Modern foreign Not all Irish people drink, not all Brazilians samba and play football, and Germans, Dutch, Filipinos and everyone else will surprise you if you leave your presumptions about them at the airport.Respect the differences, try to adapt to them yourself and realise that to them you might seem backwards in many ways. 14. Take your time If there’s one thing I’ve learned from living in countries that are more “easy going” it’s that they are way wiser than the rest of us in their pace of life. People and countries that do everything quicker also do it worse. Take it easy and go slowly. 15. You can’t please everyone If you are confident enough and share your idea with enough people, you will piss off someone no matter what you talk about. That’s their problem, not yours. 16. Following trends is for mindless sheep Stand up for yourself, and go against the flow if that’s what you feel is best. What’s cool now will be frozen over in a few years. 17. Make mistakes. Failures are the stepping stones to success. 18. Protect your Skin Seriously. 19. Stop thinking How much time you give to over-analysing ? Stop and ACT. 20. Dance and sing It’s hard not to feel good. 21. Be friendly If you are friendly, genuine and charming, making friends with people from every culture and background is possible. 22. Two hours before Always be on time 23. Pride and apologise Be the first to say you’re sorry.